In addition to skilled and intensive, years of therapy, the following books were some of the greatest life-changers for me. Please note that some of them might be triggering for you, if you are a survivor, and may be best read in tandem with regular therapy sessions with someone well-versed and well-trained in sexual abuse.

For Sexual Abuse Survivors:

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse, and the Wounded Heart Workbook, by Dan Allendar

Repressed Memories, by Renee Fredrickson, Ph.D

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

The Body Remembers, by Babbette Rothschild

Repressed Memories, by Renee Fredrickson, Ph.D

Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women, by E. Sue Blume

Broken Toys, Broken Dreams, by Terry Kellogg, M.A.

The Right to Innocence, by Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C.

Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists and other Sex Offenders, by Anna C. Salter

For Dealing with Resultant and Dysfunctional Relationships:

Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back when Someone You Know has Borderline Personality Disorder, by Paul T. Mason, M.S.

Family Secrets: The Path to Self-Acceptance and Reunion, by John Bradshaw

Bold Love, by Dan Allendar

For Postpartum/Perinatal Mood Disorders:

This Isn’t What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression, by Karen Kleiman & Valerie Raskin

Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Motherhood, by Karen Kleiman

Nobody Told Me: My Battle with Postpartum Depression and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, by Wendy Isnardi

And a PLETHORA of other tremendous resources at Postpartum Support International’s website here:

Finally, I recommend, over all else, the Bible.

Choose your favorite version. If you’re not sure which version to use, you might like The Message, by Eugene Peterson. But any NIV or NASB would be good, too. Many folks like the NIV Recovery Devotional Bible, which offers extra insight and hope for those struggling with emotional healing processes.

Start with the Gospel of John. Then spend time in the book of Psalms, which shows how much God loves us to come to Him with all our fears. All our shame. All our anger, bitterness, pain, and why’s.

Read this along with some of the resources above. And if you don’t have a church family, find one close to you and go.

There, you will find broken people just like you.

There, you will find a safe place.

There, you will find Jesus.

And hope.

And peace.

And truth.

Healing mercies to you, dear friend.

Healing mercies.