The holidays for survivors (among others) are tough.
While friends post cheery facebook updates, radio station playlists switch to roasting chestnuts and jingling bells, all you want to do is suck down the latest office tray full of Christmas cookies, and shove that dadgum Christmas Shoes song . . .
As I was saying.
The holidays can be a pretty rough time of the year for survivors.
So, to help you feel a little less like Charlie Brown and a little more like the incredibly precious person that you are, I’ve put together this collection of links. Some are to professional sites like my friend Lucille Zimmerman, an LPC with a counseling practice out in Littleton, Colorado. (Love ya, Lucille!) Other links are to survivors like you and me, with stories that above all, will help you realize you are not alone.
And isn’t that one of the greatest gifts and purposes of the holiday season, anyway? The gift of knowing you have survived. That there are millions–MILLIONS–of survivors pressing through the days and healing, too.
And most of all, that a Savior, who will someday restore us all, is with you always.
Though your tiny tree may feel bent and tired . . . though you may feel unable to hold even one good tiding in your branches . . . a Savior holds you.
So, without further blather, here are the links.
Go with mercy into the season, dear one.
Mercy, healing, and yes, even joy.
Five Questions to Help You cope with Holiday Blues, from Lucille Zimmerman, LPC.
Ways for Adult Survivors of Abuse to Cope during the Holidays, by By Joyce A. Thompson, MS, LMFT
“But the important thing is to be prepared, instead of allowing yourself to get blindsided by all of the cheer and festivities which surrounds you.”
An Adult Child Abuse Survivor’s Guide to the Holidays, by Dr. Kathleen Young, LCP
“Although written with adult survivors of abuse contending with families of origin, including perpetrators, it really could be invaluable for anyone from a dysfunctional family of any sort. Or even just useful strategies for keeping in touch with yourself and grounded while dealing with anyone challenging for you.”
Nicole Bromley’s series of posts on the holidays. Nicole does simply tremendous work to help survivors, especially of college age, around the country, and even internationally. Read more about her work, through her organization, OneVoice, here.
A Reason Why the Holidays are Triggering for Child Abuse Survivors, by Faith Allen, survivor
Surviving the Holidays Series, by (((me)))
- When healing hurts: pre-holiday thoughts for the broken
- Surviving the Holidays,Part 1 of 4: The Safety of Your Own Nest
- Surviving the Holidays, Part 2 of 4: You are enough!
- Surviving the holidays part 3/4: So this is Christmas
- Surviving the Holidays Part 4/4: Unyielding Upheaval
So, there you go.
It’s a start, anyway, and, I pray, a gift to you, if you are a survivor.
My prayers are with you all.